'Our comfort zone'

Before you read on, let me tell you this Calhoun County, South Carolina, story is one of the saddest you’ll ever read. If you have reached a certain age and live alone, it will be particularly poignant. This Associated Press writer went the extra mile to get the story behind the headline. I share her account here in its entirety:

Death went unnoticed — for 18 months in Calhoun County

Associated Press
Thursday, April 2, 2009

SANDY RUN, S.C. — Mary Sue Merchant died of natural causes in a tightly locked house on 25 acres in this small community, with only a dog for company. Sometime later, the lonely dog died of thirst in the same room.

And for 18 months, nobody knew the reclusive, 72-year-old widow was gone, not even when the house was sold for back taxes while her decomposing body lay inside.

"We didn't know this lady existed," Sheriff Thomas Summers said.

Unpaid property taxes, and the fact that her car never moved, finally led to the discovery of her body, 18 months after she died.
Only after the woman's body was found last week did it occur to neighbors that they hadn't seen her in a while. And some people wondered if they've lost a fundamental connection of small-town life.

"We've lost the community," said the Rev. Neil Flowers, who plans to talk about Merchant on Sunday at Beulah United Methodist Church, a few miles from where Merchant died.

"We do our own thing. We lead busy lives. We go and go and go ... and stay within our comfort zone."

By all accounts, Merchant and her husband kept to themselves. They had no children. The sheriff and coroner said one neighbor told them that David Merchant was a prison guard who feared retribution from former inmates, but officials couldn't confirm if he worked for the state.

David Merchant died in October 1985 at age 53, and his widow apparently lost touch with her own older sister years ago, said Calhoun County Coroner Donnie Porth, who's trying to determine that woman's last name and track her down.

A sister-in-law who tried to call — once — found the phone disconnected and assumed that Merchant had gotten a cell phone, Porth said. Through the coroner, the woman declined to comment.

"It's a sad tragedy this lady had absolutely nobody who cared enough to check on her; very sad," the sheriff said.

His deputies check on about 200 senior citizens monthly in this county of less than 15,000, 20 miles south of Columbia in central South Carolina. 'But we have to know they're there.'

Sandy Run, which lacks even a red light, is an unincorporated community, a wide spot in the road that drivers could miss if they blink.

It's the kind of place where locals can usually be counted on to say that everybody knows everybody else.

But safety nets for seniors who live alone failed in Merchant's case, or didn't exist. Authorities believe she didn't attend church. Her only prescribed medicine was for glaucoma, so she wasn't on any medical check list.

Many older people rely on family members to check in on them, especially in rural areas, said Mary Beth Fields, aging services coordinator for the area.

"You'd hope neighbors would call," she said.

Mail, Fields said, should've been a red flag. But Merchant had a post office box, so no mail piled up for neighbors or a carrier to notice.

Merchant's electricity was cut off in February 2008 after three months of unpaid bills.

Meanwhile, the brick ranch home sat partly obscured by trees and brush from the road, Merchant's white four-door Chevy parked in front and a faded "Beware of Dog" sign on a telephone pole.

Four days after Merchant's body was discovered, with a loaded .38-caliber revolver beneath her pillow, neighbor Ed Spradley heard the news from a reporter. He said he never talked to Merchant, but realized it had been awhile since her car had moved.

Across the street, neighbor Tonya Craven said if she'd known Merchant was alone she would have checked on her. But she said they spoke only once, when Craven's dog ran away.

Merchant fed and cared for about 15 wild dogs, so Craven wanted to see if her dog had joined the pack. "She was very generous to them," Craven said.

While she was talking, it occurred to Craven that she hadn't seen those dogs in some time.

Merchant's unpaid property taxes led to her discovery.

When she didn't pay a $234 bill in January 2008, the county mailed delinquency notices to her post office box, which came back as undeliverable. The property, worth about $160,000 according to county records, was sold Dec. 1, 2008, for $20,000, county administrator Lee Prickett said.

The buyer, local real estate agent Thomas Kohn, did not return messages seeking comment.

No one from the county walked the property before selling it. Prickett said that's considered trespassing because owners in debt have a year to pay.

But authorities said Kohn noticed that Merchant's car never moved, so he asked deputies to check.

Officially, it's assumed that the remains discovered Thursday are Merchant's. Dental records are being checked before she is buried beside her husband in a prepaid plot in Newberry.

An autopsy Friday determined that she died of natural causes, though specifics are unknown due to the condition of the remains, said Porth. How long the dog — breed undetermined — lived without its owner is unknown; there was plenty of dog food in the house, but no water, Porth said.

Becky Rucker, owner of the local flower shop for 30 years, said she vaguely remembers David Merchant, but has been trying to recall what Mary Sue Merchant looked like.

"It's so sad. It makes me feel bad for our community," she said. "In this day, we're supposed to be out of everybody's business, but I think sometimes that goes too far."


Rest in peace, Mary, and may you meet your faithful dog across the Rainbow Bridge.


Good Southern Man said...

This is tragic! This can also happen in a big town like Austin but I am sure they would find the body quicker. I once lived in Clinton, MS where a lonely man died and the only reason they found him was because of the smell. SAD!

Tiny said...

A very sad and tragic situation. Tiny read a story recently where a woman had been dead in her home for 7 years before she was found.

What has our society come to? How many millions of elderly people live alone? How many have become homeless due to the greedy crooks on Wall Street? Has the Golden Rule been completely blotted from the minds of the human race?

Humanity is supposed to be progressing and evolving into more enlightened beings. Something is wrong with this picture when so many tragic things are transpiring right under our nose and no one knows about it until it makes headlines or hits individuals in their personal wallet.

This is indeed sad.

Falzone said...

I have no words.

Frodo, eatin' an apple said...

The second generation, according to the Book of Genesis, was characterized by a single question, "Am I my brother's keeper?"

Whether that was 4000 years ago, or 45000 years ago, isn't it about time we walked the walk?

Gregg Sutton said...

Doing some catching up. I like the mix of your blog, the what pops into your head nature of it.

More and more are staying in their comfort zones, and not just with neighbors, but at the expense of not staying in touch with family members as evidenced in the article.

Debra said...

Truly heart breaking story. Why do people want to be such loners?
It takes two to make a friendship.
People should socialize more, then when they are old and sick, people will come to check on them and then be able to help them. House dogs are great companions, but they depend on humans for their survival. They can't help you when you are sick. PEOPLE NEED PEOPLE. Reach out and touch! It is sad that the power company can cut off the power to a house without checking the house to see why the bill hasn't been paid. That very thing happened in Belhaven just a few months ago. The man was a recluse. He had money, lots of money, he owned two house on the same street. But he was alittle off the deep end and no one took the time to HELP him. He died on his front patio in plain view of his neighbors. A few weeks before he died the city came out and cleaned up his property and hauled his old broken down car off to the dump and I guess them invading his privacy just killed him. WHO REALLY KNOWS. His name was Howard Gober. Sad, truly sad.

Papamoka said...

This was indeed tragic. I will be saying a prayer for her.